“Worry cards” – Free download card game activity to help kids with ASD deal with anxiety

Children with ASD’s deal with a lot of anxiety. Here is a card-based activity to use with individuals and small groups. It’s designed to help kids to talk about their anxiety, learn something about what causes it, and begin to explore ways to help themselves.

Download the cards – click here: Worry cards, Activity to explore anxiety

Polish translation available

Spanish language translation: Las Fichas Sobre Miedos

The characters in the cards:

Lisa: She makes negative predictions about what people are thinking about her.

Rick: He assumes that if bad things happened before, then they will continue to occur in the future.

Mary: She views the world as a place full of danger and peril.

Jeremy: He has “sensory issues” which make him dread unpleasant sounds, textures, smells, etc.

Tony: He craves sameness and he fears the unexpected.

Jasmine: She lacks confidence in her ability to deal with new challenges.

Ted: His body (breathing, muscle tension, sweating, etc) overreacts to stress.

Kayla: She gets panicky when she is away from her family and her home.

Introducing the Worry Cards:

You can try words like this if you like: “We are going to play with Worry Cards and learn about worries. Everybody gets nervous, anxious and scared in different ways. The eight Worry Cards characters each have their own way of getting upset.”

[Now, show them the panel that briefly describes each character. Embellish on each one. It works really well, actually, to enact each character briefly in the first person so the kids really get it]

“The Worry Cards are shuffled up. When you draw a random card, you have to try to figure out how to help the Worry Card character. If you can think of some good ideas, that’s great. It’s even better if you can answer the other question on the card, the one that asks about you.”

Tips on using the Worry Cards:

I suggest you avoid using the word “anxious” unless you are positive that the children understand it.

You can place cards in the deck strategically so the kids draw the particular cards that seem to pertain to them.

You can try a score system to encourage self disclosure. Say it’s one point to help the kid in the card, and two points if you can talk about yourself and work on your own worries.

I hope you find the Worry Cards useful. I enjoyed creating them.

Joel Shaul, LCSW

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June 26, 2012July 27, 2026

Turn-taking in children with ASD: Visual-based social skills strategies

Turn taking and theory of mind deficits

The diverse social skills associated with taking turns can be very difficult for children with ASD to master. This has to do with theory of mind deficits. A child with ASD may be unable to predict how another person might feel to be interrupted in a video game or given the last turn in a video game. A child on the autism spectrum might not be able to anticipate the positive social consequences for allowing a peer to go ahead of them at the drinking fountain or talk first in a discussion.

Making it visual

It often helps to make it visual when teaching social skills to kids with Asperger’s and other autism spectrum disorders. Here are some visual tools you can either download free from my various blog posts or else buy for very little money.

Thought bubble explanations

Many young children fuss about being first, but quite a few children on the autism spectrum persist in “me first” behavior, in a child-like fashion, well into their teens. Use this panel, which is part of a series of seven of my free panels you can download for free from the website, to show how others might react to someone who always tries to be first. Using your own simple pictures, create other simple thought bubble explanations to demonstrate how others feel in turn-taking situations in play and work.

Using a balance

An inexpensive classroom balance, available for about 18 dollars online, is a very useful gadget for demonstrating reciprocity in relationships and conversation. I have made a nice, illustrated tutorial to show you how to do it – click HERE.

Using a Talking Stick

This is a method of enforcing turn-taking in conversation which is part of Native American lore and tradition. Making simple Talking Sticks and using them can provide a fun and useful series of social skills lessons for young people on the autism spectrum.

How to make Talking Sticks

Pie charts

For children on the autism spectrum who dominate discussions, pie chart visuals can be extremely helpful. Here is a link that guides you to pie chart visuals like the one shown above as well as blank templates for you to customize.

Pie chart downloads

Conversation turn-taking visuals: chains and girders

I provide you with very simple downloads to create hands-on, visual conversation activities. Just download, print and cut out. I give you explanations and and a Youtube video to learn how to use the chain and girder images.

Chains and girders download and explanation

Conversation turn-taking visuals: chains and girders

Trains are my favorite visuals for teaching back-and-forth and coherence in conversation.

Click HERE to access the free download of the Train Conversation Printable Kit.

I wish you well with your social skills teaching. I hope that introducing some of these visual elements might help in your work.

Joel Shaul, LCSW

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May 24, 2012June 27, 2026

Talk-to-dad conversation starter worksheets for kids with Asperger’s and other autism disorders

conversation reciprocity worksheet for kids with Asperger's

Talk-to-Family-Member-Free-Download-3 Download

Free check-off worksheets for children with ASD’s to explore conversation topics with family members

Children with autism spectrum disorders often have difficulties having conversations with the people they live with. It really helps to use picture guides. Here is a set of easy-to-use worksheets for classroom, speech room and home.

Hot to use the worksheets:

1. Have the child put check marks next to the photos they think represent the person’s interests.

2. Go over the images one at a time with the child. Explain that the family member probably has many interests that are different from the child’s own interests.

3. The sheet “Questions, Comments, Compliments” can be used to set up role plays and actual conversation practice with family members.

4. Have family members fill them out for the child to use as a reference.

5. Project the sheets using a smart board or projector – this really helps for small group or classroom discussions about family members.

I hope these worksheets are useful for you.

Joel Shaul, LCSW

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May 11, 2012July 27, 2026

“Talk to Mom” illustrated social skills worksheets for kids with Asperger’s and other ASD’s

Talk-to-Family-Member-Free-Download-2 Download

In French: Comment-discuter-avec-membres-de-votre-famille-fiches-de-travail

Free check-off worksheets for children with ASD’s to explore conversation topics with family members

How to use the worksheets:

1. Have the child put check marks next to the photos they think represent the person’s interests.

2. Go over the images one at a time with the child. Explain that the family member probably has many interests that are different from the child’s own interests.

3. The sheet “Questions, Comments, Compliments” can be used to set up role plays and actual conversation practice with family members.

4. Have family members fill them out for the child to use as a reference.

5. Project the sheets using a smart board or projector – this really helps for small group or classroom discussions about family members.

I hope these worksheets are useful for you.

Joel Shaul, LCSW

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April 22, 2012July 27, 2026

Seven social skills worksheets for kids with ASD who are socially isolated

In an earlier post, I provide an isolation card activity for you to download and use in your social skills teaching activities with children on the autism spectrum. Here are some additional materials for you to use, simple worksheets.There are many reasons that children with Asperger’s and other autism spectrum disorders often struggle with social isolation. They may be motivated to socialize, but their efforts may not be fruitful. They might be enthralled with solitary activities based on their preferred interests. Kids with ASD can find their days at school exhausting, and they sometimes over-compensate with down time to recover. Typical children can reject or bully children with ASD.The worksheets are to support your social skills teaching efforts on this topic. The most important worksheets are the daily schedule records, which you can use separately if you like if you don’t wish to use the other four worksheets.If you do not download the card activity from the earlier blog post, I do suggest you check out the content of the cards anyhow. I believe it will help you cover more dimensions of this social skills activity.

My best wishes to you, and the children you are helping, as you work on this issue.

To download the worksheets:

Follow the directions below to download the PDF files for the worksheets.

CLICK HERE: Seven Worksheets to explore social isolation

CLICK HERE for telehealth version of this resource

Hebrew translation: 7 worksheets for children who are socially isolated

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April 18, 2012July 27, 2026

Teasing and bullying social skills kit for kids with ASD – Free download cards and illustrated panels

autism social skills counseling materials

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Children with autism spectrum disorders often suffer quite a lot from being teased and bullied. I have designed some materials to help them to learn some coping skills in this area. This is not intended to serve as an entire curriculum or to function as a classroom’s primary response to the problem of teasing and bullying. Obviously, preventing cruel children from victimizing vulnerable peers on the autism spectrum is the main problem to solve.

The materials I provide here are to help with:

*Increasing repertoire of functional responses to teasing and bullying

*Increasing ability to distinguish “friendly” from “mean” teasing and to distinguish intentional from unintentional harm

*Increasing ability to cope with anger, anxiety, sadness and other emotions associated with being teased and bullied

How to use the six illustrated panels:

The panels are designed to be used in several different ways. First, they are to be displayed while using the cards to help children know how to respond to the questions and challenges on the cards. Second, you might consider posting them on your wall as a bulletin board if you decide to not use the cards. Finally, you can use them in small groups to hold up one at a time as instructional aids when you are dealing with this topic.

How to use the cards:

There are three kinds of cards:

1. ” What to do?” cards: These cards describe hypothetical kids in a variety of problem scenarios, and the person drawing the card has to figure out possible solutions. There is often more than one answer.

2. “What about you?” cards: These cards require the person drawing them to carry out a variety of brief learning tasks or to reflect on their own experience with teasing and bullying.

3. “What to think?” cards: Each card contains a thought bubble featuring a particular thought or belief that can increase the harm caused by the unkindness of peers. The task is to try to counter the harmful thought with one or more “antidote thoughts.” (These cognitive behavioral therapy concepts in reference to children with autism are explained in a series of other blog posts with useful downloads.) A good way to use these cards is for you, the adult, to play the role of a child who endorses the thought in the thought bubble. The child(ren) then have to talk you out of this way of thinking.

Options on using the cards:

*You can shuffle up the cards and have kids draw them at random.

*You can keep the cards in three separate piles and have kids draw from one pile or the other based on how they roll a dice.

*You can select and discard cards and distribute the cards within the deck strategically so that the participants will draw cards that help them with their most difficult issues.

*If you don’t wish to use the cards, I invite you nevertheless to borrow the content of the cards in your own therapy/teaching. I tried to cover a lot of issues that affect children with ASD in reference to teasing and bullying.

This social skills topic is going to be really hard work both for your clients with ASD and for you as well. I hope these free social skills materials help. Good luck with it.

Joel Shaul, LCSW

This kit is also available in Polish

If you don’t want to print and cut out all these materials, download the Teasing and Bullying Kit, PowerPoint Version

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April 16, 2012July 27, 2026

“Control-o-meter” social skills tool for kids with autism, helps with voice volume, other behavior

volume regulation method for children with autism

To download this free, printable resource, click on this red link below:

Control Meters Download for Voice Volume

Control de Volumen de Voz para niños con autismo

Voice Volume Meter, Hebrew Translation

There is another download available for easily custom-designing your own behavior meters. Check it out!

Customizable Behavior Meter Templates – Click HERE

Meter for Exploring Obsession with Fantasy – Click HERE

Joel Shaul, LCSW

*Don’t miss these other free social skills / conversation games, activities, worksheets and printables for kids with autism:

Free social skills games & activities, communication / conversation skills for kids with ASD

Free social skills games & activities, social interaction skills for kids with ASD

Free social skills games & activities, emotional regulation skills for kids with ASD

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April 11, 2012June 27, 2026

Social skills card teaching activity for children with ASD who are isolated

To download the pdf of this kit, click on the red link here:

Social Cards PDF Download

This resource is available in Polish

This activity is also available in a PowerPoint version in case you want to “show it” rather than cut it out:

Social Cards PowerPoint Version

Social isolation is common in children with autism spectrum disorders. The reasons are obvious. They can become enthralled with preferred activities that they carry out in solitude. The social world can be tiring and frustrating and children with autism can over-compensate with down time to recover. Modern technology provides engaging self- stimulation without face-to-face social contact. Children with ASD can become bewildered and discouraged when they go about trying to socialize. The peers of children with ASD can be unaccommodating and rejecting.

I have provided for you here a social skills teaching activity to help children with ASD’s to explore social isolation. It can be played in a small group or one-on-one between an adult and a child. To play it, you need a single die. When you roll it, it directs the participant to draw a card out of one of three piles of 12 cards.

Dice — Why bother with dice in this activity? To add levity and to take an edge off the challenging content. For more on game-like elements in social skills teaching, click on the dice picture.

Roll 1 or 2: “Help the Kid” card. Each card describes a different child experiencing a unique isolation problem. You have to figure out some way to “Help the Kid” with their problem. There is more than one possible solution to each.

Roll 3 or 4: “Fix the Thought” card. Each card shows a different thought or belief which can either contribute to social isolation or make loneliness hurt more. You have to think of one or more thoughts or beliefs to counter the negative thought.

Roll 5 or 6: “All about You.” These questions explore the child’s own social isolation.

Hot to make the cards and card holders: Click on the PDF download link at the top of this post.

I hope you find this social skills game activity useful.

Joel Shaul

Here is a free download of worksheets on the topic of social isolation for children on the autism spectrum.

Worksheets for Exploring Social Isolation

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April 4, 2012July 27, 2026

Flexibility in kids with ASD – Card activity to teach this social skill to children on the autism spectrum

Children with autism spectrum disorders often experience challenges relate to rigidity. They can find if difficult dealing with changes and trying things new ways. Children on the autism spectrum can find it hard to imagine the points of view of other people and they often don’t make accurate predictions about how others will react to their own strong opinions.

The free resource featured here is one of many I offer to help raise awareness regarding rigidity and flexibility in social situations.

To print out the 36 cards and the two panels, click here:

Flexibility Cards, Activity to explore rigidity

Also available in POLISH language version

*But in case you prefer to “show” this activity rather than print it and cut it out, click below instead:

Flexibility Cards PowerPoint Version

When you print out the cards, I suggest you use cardstock or else paper which you will then laminate.

The two panels describing Rigidity and Flexibility can be used separately as a wall display or teaching aid, if you don’t intend to use the cards.

Suggestions on how to introduce the topic of Rigidity:

1. I suggest that you select your terminology carefully. Many kids with ASD learning the social skill of flexibility might not have the capacity to learn and use words such as “rigidity,” flexibility,” “cooperate,” “compromise,” etc. Far more children will be able to grasp the meaning of simpler words like “stubborn,” “bossy,” “get along with,” “let others have their way,” etc.

2. Try using language like this when starting on this topic:

“Some things around us are hard. What are some objects in this room that are hard? Other things are soft. Name some soft objects in this room. Now let’s talk about how things that we cannot see can also be hard or soft. Like our thoughts. Here are some words for thoughts that are HARD: Bossy, stubborn, [rigid], unchanging. Here are some words for thoughts that are SOFT: Flexible, agree, willing to change, willing to try, [cooperate]. Sometimes it is okay or good to to be stubborn and bossy. Like if someone is trying to get you to do something really bad, it’s great to be really stubborn and say no. Sometimes it feels really good to do something the same way over and over to make you feel safe and calm. But very often, it is not good to be rigid. Being rigid can keep you from doing good, new things. Being rigid can annoy other people. Being rigid can keep you from having friends.”

3. I have a children’s YouTube video on Rigidity – This might be a good introduction to this topic.

How to use the cards:

The cards are designed to help kids with autism to learn more about the social skills of flexibility associated with accepting other people’s thoughts and ideas and dealing with unexpected and unwanted changes. You can shuffle the cards randomly or else “stack the deck” so that cards most fitting for the child(ren) present will be drawn. Remove from the deck any cards you don’t consider relevant.

My first suggestion is that you do lots of role plays when you are doing this social skills game activity. For example, you, the adult, can pretend to be the rigid person depicted in the card. You can do the role play with another adult or with the children who are present. My second suggestion is that you strongly reinforce children when they show awareness of their own rigid traits. You can try passing out tokens or keeping score in some way to acknowledge learning about flexibility and admitting to rigid habits.

Below the downloads, you will find some links to other downloadable social skills activities on the website that particularly focus autism social skills having to do with rigidity.

I hope you enjoy this social skills activity.

Joel Shaul, LCSW

There are dozens of other free social skills games, worksheets and card activities you can download for children on the autism spectrum. Don’t miss them!

Free social skills games & activities, communication / conversation skills for kids with ASD

Free social skills games & activities, social interaction skills for kids with ASD

Free social skills games & activities, emotional regulation skills for kids with ASD

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March 31, 2012July 27, 2026

TALK less and SHOW more: Many kids with autism need fewer words in social skills teaching

Many children with autism spectrum disorders can get bogged down with our spoken teaching. In this blog post, I offer some guidance on how to establish a visual oriented social skills training style for those children on the autism spectrum who appear to favor this modality.If you work a lot with children who have autism spectrum disorders, you have seen the following: A child listens to your words for a short time, and then their brain hits a kind of inner mute button, and your session or lesson is effectively finished.

button created by autistic woman — An autistic woman who at times finds verbal communication overwhelming (her website is shown on the bottom of this button) creates and sells cool jewelry, including buttons featuring visual prompts

There can be a number of reasons for this. We might be using boring words, speaking too fast, using language that is too complex, or neglecting to reference the child’s preferred interests. But a common reason for “losing your audience” in social skills training with kids on the autism spectrum is that many kids with ASD seem to learn better in a visual modality. Temple Grandin is a well-known example of a person with autism who learns visually. She articulates this beautifully in this quote: “When I think about abstract concepts such as relationships with people, I use visual images such as a sliding glass door. Relationships should be approached gently because barging forward too quickly might shatter the door.” (From Teaching Children with Autism, by Kathleen Ann Quail )

Temple Grandin, autistic person with visual learning style — Temple Grandin

There are certainly many children with autism who do not learn in a visual manner like Temple Grandin. But for the ones who do, I believe is important to keep on hand a variety of engaging and meaningful props for your social skills learning activities. Here are a few examples.

For many kids with ASD, our frequent verbal prompts regarding nonverbal factors just become part of the unwanted noise they tune out. But when you keep on hand pictures of eyes, hands, a face and a ruler, and use these as visual prompts during social skills activities, you can get much better attention and retention.

Children with ASD can tune out our words after years and years of verbally prompting to talk less, talk more, stop talking about that, and so forth. For individuals who might be withering under all this scrutiny and badgering, try a social skills teaching approach. This toy balance, available for about 15 dollars online, is terrific for social skills activities to teach reciprocity in conversation and relationships. Learn more about this here.

I invite you to explore dozens of other visual-based, engaging autism social skills training methods on this website.

Here is a one minute video that explains much of this.

Joel Shaul

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