Teaching children with autism the social skill of discerning silly from serious

social skills training activity

Children on the autism spectrum often need help understanding levels of formality. This blog post provides you a colorful and fun social skills game to play. There are 32 cards for you to print out below.

Young people with Asperger’s and other autism spectrum disorders often struggle to understand what I call “levels of formality” in social situations.  In a milieu where a serious bearing might be indicated for a child, a young person on the autism spectrum might behave and speak in a casual and informal manner.  For some kids with ASD, the opposite can occur also, and they can at times act too proper around peers where more laid back words and actions would be more appropriate.
There are several reasons why children on the autism spectrum find this set of social skills hard to grasp.  First, they tend to not easily understand the subtleties of social hierarchies and how they themselves rank within them.  Second, a child with ASD often tends to  have difficulty making quick shifts in attention, so if such a child is transitioned suddenly from, say,  playing Wii to meeting Mom’s boss who has just stopped by the house, the child might find it extremely difficult to alter his behavior and words quickly enough.  Third, many kids with autism have difficulty regulating extremes of emotion.  Exerting control over feelings of excitement can be hard for them.
social skills method for kids with ASD

In another blog post, I provide a download to make this “control-o-meter” and two others, for voice volume and personal space. Click on this picture to be linked.

To help children with ASD to learn this social skill, I find it very helpful to divide levels of formality into four different levels.  They are basically defined in the visual above.  Then, you can help the child by saying, “We’re going into Chucky Cheese.  You can be level 1 in there.”  Or, at a big family get-together, you can help the child by saying, “In the backyard pool, that’s a level one. When we go inside to see great-grandpa, who is sick, that is a level 3.”
What is included in the Silly to Serious Card Activity:



components of this ASD social skills activitiy

These are the Silly to Serious visual and word prompts for the four levels. You post them on the wall or lay them on the floor. The visuals shown here can be used alone with kids on the spectrum for social skills lessons. Printing out the socials cards below is recommended if you want to make a game out of it.These are the Silly to Serious social skills cards. There are 32. Each card poses a question or sets up a role play.  These are the Silly to Serious social skills cards. There are 32. Each card poses a question or sets up a role play.


social skills game cards for kids with Asperger's
How to introduce the activity:
“People can’t be serious all the  time when they are around other people.  People can’t be silly all the time either.  They have to be the right amount of serious or silly, depending on who they are with and what is happening.”
Now, show the Level Cards to the kids and help them to understand the varieties of social situations within each of the levels.  Practice greetings and goodbyes within each of the levels.  As you get into this, you may easily find you have enough to do for one or two classes or sessions without even getting to the card activity.
“We are going to play the Silly to Serious game.  There are four different kinds of cards in this deck, and when you draw a card you have to do what the card says.
If you draw a “What Level” card, you have to figure out which of the four levels the person in the card is going through.
If you draw a “Fix the Mistake” card, you have to find out how the person in the card is either too serious or too silly and then fix their problem.
If you draw a “Your Own Life” card, you have to answer the question about about YOU.
If you draw an “Act it Out” the card, you have to act out what the card tells you to act out.”
How to make the Silly to Serious Card Activity:
Follow the directions for pdf download below.  There are two separate downloads, one for the illustrated panels and one for the cards.

Click HERE to go to the download page for these resources.

In case you prefer to “show” this activity rather than print and cut out the various components, here is a PowerPoint version for you:

Silly to Serious Set, PowerPoint Version


Joel Shaul, LCSW

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