Personal Space, Personal Distance ~ free, illustrated pdf eBook for ages 8 to teen

The cover of the book on personal space by Joel Shaul

German translation of this book

Irish translation of this book

Hebrew translation of this book

"Young people with autism often find it very hard to figure out personal space."
"Most autistic children need the help of parents, teachers and therapists to figure out personal space."
"This personal space book is formatted to display on a computer, tablet or projection screen. It is to be read with an adult."

I created this resource for several reasons.

First, although there are many resources available to help children with autism to learn about personal space, the resources tend to be simple and formulaic. In my own experience helping young people on the autism spectrum to learn about personal space, the actual unwritten rules are so complicated that merely relating some simple rules isn’t good enough.

Second, there are few resources on personal space and distance designed to help older children, teens and young adults. As children on the spectrum grow up, the personal space rules affecting them get more and more complicated, especially if the young person is involved in a variety of challenging interactions in the community.

Third, I have come to view problems with getting too close as part of a spectrum of challenges that includes getting too far away. My own clients over the years who made mistakes with getting too close or inappropriately touching people also had difficulty with getting too far away from the expected social grouping.

I designed this eBook to help young people, over a wider range of ages, with a more broadly defined set of challenges involving personal space and distance.

The pictures below show some pages from the book, illustrating the wide variety of personal space problems that autistic youth are constantly under pressure to solve. The examples come from my many years of work with autistic children and teens in therapy, classrooms and especially in my ten years of running summer youth programs for teens on the spectrum.

"Part one of the book is about getting too close to others. Part two is about getting too far from others."
This shows page 4 of the book, featuring a 14 year old who hugs his great-grandfather too tightly.
This shows page 14, the graphic shows a boy carelessly touching a girl in the chest.
This shows page 16, showing a boy getting too close to someone to view that person's phone.
This shows page 24 - a boy walking too close to others at a public pool.
This shows page 29, in which a boy gets too far from his parents in a grocery store.
This shows page 37 - a boy running far ahead of his family at a movie theatre.
Picture showing a personal space problem at home during meal time.